The Adoption Exchange
Grace’s Story Part 4
After we got off the phone with our birth-mother we talked to our lawyer who explained to us the options our birth-mother had at this point. She could leave Grace with the couple she was already with, She could choose to parent the baby herself, or she could choose to place with us. He explained to us that he had gone over all of that with her so that she knew her options. With that we were all going to meet up at his office in a few short hours.
I got on the phone and called my friend who just had a baby not too long ago and she got me hooked up with her last 2 newborn diapers and a sample can of formula. With that, a onesie, blanket, bottle and a car seat we headed to the lawyers office.
On our car ride down we had our introductory home study interview, to see if we were eligible to adopt in the state of Utah. They were so nice to let us do it over the phone. We didn’t know what to think, we had so many emotions.
When we arrived Derek met us at the door and led us up to his office. We sat and chatted for a while then the birth mother called and they were there. Derek went downstairs to meet them and took them to a nice room with a couch on a different level of the building. Then he came back with us while we waited. Then the call came. They wanted us to come… I cant even express all the emotions that I had walking into that room. I thought my heart was going to burst. As we walked in we saw the birth-mother holding Grace and her boyfriend sitting on a chair across from her and his grown daughter was with them. They had tears in their eyes and said to us, “Come meet your daughter.” Mitch and I crouched around this sweet birth-mother and just ooed and awwed over the beautiful baby. We took some pictures and they told us how they were finally at peace, they said that they knew Grace needed to be part of our family and they were so thankful for all that we had done. We tried to express the love we already had for Grace and how thankful we were for this huge blessing they we giving to us.
I was able to give her a Spirit of the Oak necklace and express the love I knew Heavenly Father has for her and that I hoped when she looked at it it would give her strength and also remind her of all the strength she has already shown and remember how far she has come. She truly is remarkable and has been through so much.
Then after about an hour the birth mother said, “OK, I’m ready.” She had me sit next to her and she put one arm around me the other holding grace. We were both filled with emotion as she passed Grace to me. We both cried and held each other. It was such a tender moment to see how much love this birth-mother had for Grace and how much trust she had that we were to be her parents. It was such a special moment that I will never forget.
Then she was ready to do the paperwork. Mitch and I were able to sit and love on our sweet baby girl. It was as if she had been with us forever. We had such an overwhelming love for Grace instantly. I had so many fears….. that I would feel like I was babysitting or that I would feel like I needed to give her back. I am so happy to say I have not had any of those feelings. There was a quote that sums it up;
After our birth-mother signed the relinquishment and went over everything with her social worker we gave Grace back to her to say goodbye. You could see her trying to memorized every little thing about Grace and you could feel her love for her. After about another hour or so they kissed her and handed her back to Mitch and I. We had the most surreal feeling as we walked to our car with the newest member of our family. We were so excited to introduce her to her big sister..
To be continued…..
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