Every year when April 1st rolls around there is a popular joke people like to play on their friends and family members. It is usually done over social media. You know the one, right? The “fake pregnancy announcement joke”. For those in the TTC (trying to conceive) community and for our loved ones who know better, that joke can come across as insensitive and hurtful.
I have heard from those who support not joking about pregnancy and those who think it’s not a big deal.
Today I want to share why I think it is fair to ask people not to joke about pregnancy on April Fool’s Day– or any day for that matter.
I am in no way speaking for the entire TTC (trying to conceive) community, but I do speak for myself and I think it might represent what someone else feels, too. I have been in this boat for almost ten years. I have felt the ups and downs that come along with infertility. I have felt at peace with it, and I have felt broken by it.
I have gotten pregnant, and had babies, and I have felt the emptiness that comes with wanting more.
Why should you not “joke” about pregnancy?
Why does it “hurt” someone else?
Why is it a big deal?