Father’s Day is coming up and I wanted to put it out there that Father’s Day might be just as hard for men, as Mother’s Day can be for women who are affected by infertility.
Surprised? Did you know? Had your thought about it? I’ll admit sometimes I haven’t.
On Mother’s Day we see beautiful quotes stating that you don’t need to have a child to be a mother. And there are caring and thoughtful blog posts written reminding the childless women that they are not alone and that they are just as much mothers as the ones who have children.
But men affected by infertility have feelings, emotions and they hurt, too.
I think so often men feel the need to be strong for their wife, and they are often the ones holding up their spouse emotionally, and physically during the pains of infertility. Because of this, sometimes we might forget that even though they might hold in their emotions, it doesn’t mean they aren’t experiencing feelings of sadness, depression, anger and hurt, too.
Just like all women can be a mother- with or without children- I want to remind everyone that all men can be fathers, too.
And Father’s Day might just be a tender day for them as well.
Even if they don’t shed tears, or talk about it openly, I hope we can all be a little more sensitive on this day to our husbands, brothers, sons, uncles and friends who might have that agonizing hole in their heart that infertility can bring.
I found the following poem and thought it was so eloquent.
God took the strength of a mountain, The majesty of a tree,
The warmth of a summer sun, The calm of a quiet sea,
The generous soul of nature, The comforting arm of night,
The wisdom of the ages, The power of the eagle’s flight,
The joy of a morning in spring, The faith of a mustard seed,
The patience of eternity, The depth of a family need,
Then God combined these qualities, When there was nothing more to add,
He knew His masterpiece was complete,
And so, He called it … Dad