Today I want to share a few thoughts on how to show love and forgiveness to people who may say or do insensitive things when it comes to infertility.
It has taken me ten years to realize that people usually do not mean to be insensitive in their remarks. Most of the time they are not trying to hurt our feelings, and they are not out to purposely make us feel sad or uncomfortable. The truth of the matter is they probably don’t know better and they probably think they are trying to help.
That is one reason why Infertility Awareness is so important. If we talk about it more- then it can help educate others. It can help not only people going through infertility- but those in our lives who want to support and love us through this trial.
But let’s not ignore the fact that even if people do say things that might be insensitive- whether intentional or not- it still can hurt. Their words or actions still might make us cry. It is important to acknowledge and validate those feelings.
So often I have felt guilty for having hurt feelings because I rationalized them away by saying “so-and-so didn’t know any better, so I shouldn’t be feeling that way.”
But I am human. I have deep emotions and feelings- and so do you.